Amanda Rose: Grief Coach, Speaker & Death Positive Advocate
Hi! I am Amanda. In addition to being a certified Death Doula, I am also a serial entrepreneur with over 20+ years in marketing, branding and building disruptive intelligent business.  I have worked across numerous industries and sectors from large blue-chip companies, government agencies and corporations, currently I run a community-centric beauty supply business called HYVE Beauty. However, my TRUE passions lay in the realm of activating community and igniting meaningful and APPROACHABLE conversation around death, grief and loss. I believe every human being on this Earth deserves a Good Death. 

 My commitment is to show up in this world and do what I can to HEAL our very fractured and wounded relationship with death. To challenge the destructive narratives we hold about death and to most certainly challenge the "stories" we hold about ourselves and our inability to meet death in a positive constructive way. Let's start with some simple questions:

  •  What if we approached death with curiosity rather than fear? 
  •  What if death could create opportunities for healing and connection rather than fear and destruction?  
 We MUST show up with courage. We MUST activate a community who actively chooses curiosity over fear, chooses connection over isolation. In doing this, we truly CAN and WILL heal our generational and cultural wounds and ultimately our relationship with death.  Imagine a world where we as a society approach death with the same reverence we perceive birth. It follows that this will completely transform and enrich the way we live.  

 This is all so very possible - I'd love it if you would talk with me. Perhaps we can walk through this together.  XO AR

I WILL SOON BE OFFERING: Coaching & Speaking/Advocacy Services primarily. I am absolutely open to any opportunities to connect with like-minded & like-hearted beings. I am NOT currently a practicing Death Doula offering direct support, however I have a fast-growing network of amazing practitioners eager to directly serve those facing imminent loss, death or struggling with grief. We also have our beautiful HYVE Space very near the Edmonton Airport that is rentable for community gatherings, healing circles and what is truly needed.


 *AUTHOR'S NOTE: this is a brand new website still very much under development, with sooo much more to come! If you'd like to further connect please e-mail me at hello@realamandarose.com or find me on Social Media @realamandarose 

photo credit: the incredible Jillian Schecher of https://jillianschecher.com/
What is a "Good Death?"
Obviously this question has many subjective answers AND seeing as you're here on my site reading this page, I am going to go ahead and assume for now you are interested in how I define a "Good Death'. And of course, like everything in life, I expect that these definitions I have created with be forever dynamic - changing/shifting/expanding as I dive deeper into this realm.

Today I define a Good Death as a Villiage-Making Event. A culmination of gestures, intentions and wishes being met in a sacred container of support and love. A point in time where connections are created and deepened and there is profound healing.  Where there is the inarguable presence of love, openness and grace. Please allow me to share with you the Good Death that completely changed how I perceive this life and my experience of it.

I would be honored if you would share your definition and/or stories with me. hello@amandarose.com
My Infant Son Died in my Arms.

In the early morning hours of April 9, 2004 my beautiful 4 day old son Jake Michael took his final breath in my arms. With that last breath, my heart shattered into millions of tiny jagged pieces and I would never ever be the same. I was blown wide open at 24 years old. It wasn’t until years later after walking very intimately with death, trauma, grief and loss that I would come to recognize and appreciate the spiritually-altering heart-expanding GIFT that I had been given. 

This "thing" did not happen TO me, this happened FOR me.   

For the 4 days my son and I shared this earth together, he knew NOTHING BUT ABSOLUTE LOVE. Thanks to our incredible community/family/friends - our Village, my son was held HIS ENTIRE LIFE. He was loved, he was cherished, he was SEEN.

The moment I met my little boy, I knew I was in the presence of a very WISE old soul. When that exquisitely perfect and very sick little boy chose me as his mama, he taught me the profound beauty, grace and healing that come in actively choosing and creating a good death for a loved one.

A word about surviving your child/children. It truly is the most devastating and unnatural event. The worst possible thing.

I am here today to tell you that JOY IS STILL POSSIBLE. You are NOT alone in this. 

MUCH MORE TO COME. xo AR

Grief During the Holidays

The Holidays are especially tough on those of us walking through and with the darkness of grief and loss. 

 What can you do with YOUR grief over the holidays? 

- set little goals for yourself that move you forward, daily or weekly are best 

 - practice self-care be gentle with yourself but DO NOT isolate 

 - stay connected, this is VITAL 

 - make one new tradition, be mindful and honour old ones 

 - be of service/volunteer. This is one of the most constructive and loving things we can do our grief. 

 - Make time with loved ones to share your favourite holiday stories or memories 

 How to best support a love one struggling with grief/loss:

 - Don’t ask what they need, just show up. 

- Don’t try to fix the unfixable, just be present and witness 

- offer your time without strings or agenda. 

- Don’t ask what’s needed: Buy the groceries, book the massage, take the kids out, walk the dog. 

- Bring coffee or tea and your most compassionate patient self. 

 THE VERY BEST THING WE CAN DO WITH GRIEF AND THOSE EXPERIENCING IT IS TO: SHOW UP. DON’T GIVE UP. BE CURIOUS BUT NOT PUSHY. HOLD SPACE. SHARE YOURSELF, YOUR STORIES, YOUR HEART.

 ACKNOWLEDGE HOW IMPORTANT IT IS. ALLOW THE GRIEF TO BE SEEN, HEARD AND HELD IN A VERY SAFE SPACE FOR HOWEVER LONG IT NEEDS TO STAY. 

 In Social situations, things can feel very awkward. It is a delicate balance to strike between asking someone how they’re doing, acknowledging their loss and freezing up/avoiding them. 

 Here’s my tips: 

 - do NOT avoid them 

- do not ask how they are doing 

- acknowledge their loss gently 

- try this “ the story I’m telling myself as this it is difficult for you to be here and yet you came - I want to honor the strength that took. I know in my heart you are going to be okay. I am here. You are not alone.” 

 Ideas for memorial gifts and tokens: Bejeweled Memory necklace jewelry: My wonderful friend Patricia Coombs made me an exquisite pressed metal necklace for my son Jake with his ashes, his initials and his word “wisdom”. Patricia makes beautiful heart-filled custom made jewelry.

Her website: www.bejeweled.ca 

 Full Circle Memory Beads 

 -blown glass pendants, beads, ornaments & mourning stones made with loved one's ashes Melanie Anderson - Armstrong BC www.fullcirclememorybeads.com 

 Alberto Ruiz - INCREDIBLE SKETCH ARTIST 

 - stunning and joyful Hand drawn memorial portraits from favourite pictures for $100 USD, Alberto is a truly talented artist ♥️ 

Social Media: Alberto Ruiz Designs 

 Reach out if you need to talk: hello@realamandarose.com XO AR